Why is it so hard to make friends once you are out of school? I thought that when I had kids, I would be drawn to the other moms and vice versa. It doesn't happen like that.
Of course I have a few girlfriends with kids, but most of my friends are from high school and don't have any kids yet, not to mention that they don't live very close to me.
Is it because I tend to get extremely shy when I run into other girls at the gym and mumble a "hi" as I walk to my car?
Hopefully I am not the only one who feels like this.
There is this one girl that I see all over town and at the YMCA every time I'm there, but for some reason I can't get the courage up to go introduce myself. Now, she meets with another girl to work out and I am doubly intimidated.
Gosh, I sound like such a dork!
You would think that since I do hair, I see women all the time. Most of them are my age, we have a lot in common, but for some reason instead of saying "Hey, Let's get together one weekend with the kids and have a BBQ, or something" I think "Oh, why would they want to hang out with me, I'm sure they have plenty of their own friends..." Then the moment passes and they go on their way until I do their hair again.
One word: Confidence. and I seem to be lacking in that department.
When did that happen to me?
I will say that since our house is for sale, and not really knowing exactly where we will be moving, makes me hesitant to even try very hard to meet new people. I am worried that I will find some people I really like and then move away. But really, that shouldn't stop me.
It seems like with most of the people i know, we talk about doing something, but it rarely actually happens. That is another major problem. I genuinely want to get together, but something always comes up, then we never plan for anything else.
I need to follow that mantra of "A lot less talk and a little more action" :)
Thanks for listening to my pathetic ramblings.
One question:
How do you step out of your comfort zone and make new friends?
